1.0 link Rainbow Dash Network http://rainbowdash.net/ Rarity (rarity) http://rainbowdash.net/rarity http://rainbowdash.net/notice/3261426 @<span class="vcard"><a href="http://rainbowdash.net/user/31239" class="url"><span class="fn nickname mention">clayinthecarpet</span></a></span> it's different with people you know intimately, i.e. family members. rule number 1: If they say they don't want to talk about it, <i>don't keep asking them</i>. Seriously. My father was an Officer in the US Navy, but had to do a lot of spy type things during the Gulf War. I KNOW not to ask him about it, because he's made it clear that if he wants to tell me, he will tell me. Just be tactful.