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  1. Nicklecat Nicklecat

    I am really getting worried about my friend. He has been really depressed and has been having suicidal thoughts and he thinks that everyone should just give up on him. What makes it worse is that people are giving up on him, I guess that would make me one of the last people he has apparently. If worse comes to worse than whatever he does is his choice in the end.

    Saturday, 25-Apr-15 18:23:57 UTC from web
    1. orungano orungano

      @nickokaka That really sucks, man. I've been on both sides of that situation and it really is tough.

      Saturday, 25-Apr-15 18:25:11 UTC from web
      1. Nicklecat Nicklecat

        @tiffany I'm just gonna do the best I can at this point

        Saturday, 25-Apr-15 18:26:08 UTC from web
        1. orungano orungano

          @nickokaka I might be out of my element trying to give advice here, but here goes. In my experience with people, myself included, who are depressed and say that they're terrible people and all that jazz (I assume this applies here), it's a bad idea to try and tell them otherwise. As right as you are to tell someone how amazing they are, in that state of mind, them hearing that will just make them feel even worse, kind of like they've been lying to you, if you know what I mean. Obviously it's not like you should tell them the opposite, but I find it helps to change the topic entirely. Like, use a non sequitur - divert the conversation to something totally different that will take their mind elsewhere. Hopefully, persevering with that will sooner or later improve their mood as you have a casual conversation totally irrelevant to their depression in the first place. I'm not sure how much this will help you but I hope it does. Best of luck.

          Saturday, 25-Apr-15 18:33:45 UTC from web
        2. Narwhal Narwhal

          @nickokaka To add on to what Tiff was saying, just being there to listen to them is a huge helper. Obviously, following what Tiff said, be careful with positive reinforcement since it can work backwards a lot, but honestly just being there for someone to unload and get their demons off their chest really helps them. Ultimately no one but them can beat their depression in the long run, but overcoming anything like this on your own is really difficult. If it persists I'd gently suggest that he seek assistance of some kind, like some kind of therapy and possibly antidepressants. Suicide is never the answer, but when you're in that state of being it can sure seem really welcoming. I hope your friend can recover from this.

          Saturday, 25-Apr-15 18:53:43 UTC from web