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Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:07:58 UTC from web-
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:10:49 UTC from web
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:11:58 UTC from web
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@vt3c I have never met a feminist who doesn't believe that all men should burn in a fire and then all women could become the Amazonian queens they deserve to be. Then again, I meet a lot of idiots and don't intend to learn a lot about that specific ideology.
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:15:45 UTC from web
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:17:40 UTC from web
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@vt3c Doesn't excuse the ones who didn't have that kind of abusive past. Those men far as I'm concerned deserve death, but that won't change a thing they did. Nor will yelling at every man that woman meets after the point.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:20:11 UTC from web -
@vt3c Human conditioning is a terrible thing sometimes. I was like this with my foster parents.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:25:03 UTC from web -
@vt3c The issue is that feminism is a flawed concept from the start. It's just like machoism, a sexist ideology. In paper, the ideas of gender equality are great and it'd be really nice to see them implemented, but activist groups are hypocrital and base their campaigns on attacking the other factions and get on a circlejerk that eventually ends in ideas like the all-encompasing, omnipotent patriarchy from tumblr feminism. The proper way to go would be to drop the movement, purge the zealots from it, and restart under a name like "equalism" or "gender equality", thus avoiding unnecesary conflict like they do nowadays, dragging people who would otherwise be neutral or friendly to their cause to oppose them out of self preservation.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:26:43 UTC from web -
@vt3c Yeah, being constantly afraid does that to a person. Unfortunately some people can never be snapped out of it. Once that damage gets in you young you're stuck with it forever.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:29:00 UTC from web -
@vt3c Your mom is an ass and she should feel like an ass.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:29:55 UTC from web -
@vt3c If they weren't wimps they wouldn't be going on hate crusades over the internet. They'd be working towards a goal in real life.
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:31:13 UTC from web
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@vt3c Truth be told you know she could be worse. She could be filled with actual rage all the time. She could show absolutely no emotion, be shut down. Not saying you all should count yourself lucky, it's just that with abuse like that... can do so much to mess up someone.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:33:22 UTC from web -
@vt3c Your mom needs therapy. Deep, constant therapy. I'm sure you understand that, right? Because...that's cray-cray.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:34:59 UTC from web -
@vt3c Spirituality is one of those big things. I latched onto Judaism for the longest time after being adopted because of it and just suddenly... none of it made sense. I could write volumes on this stuff but.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:37:35 UTC from web -
@vt3c Er, uh, hrm, Yeah, she might be a little bit mentally ill. And by "little bit," I mean "her picture is in the dictionary beside the term 'mentally ill.'"
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:38:33 UTC from web-
@clayinthecarpet @vt3c My wife is often abusive due to mental illness. Fortunately I can usually separate her from her illness. I think that if you want a healthy relationship with somepony who's ill, that's the only way, otherwise the resentment goes toward the person or yourself.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:42:02 UTC from web-
@tia You're so damn smart. Thanks for saying that. You're absolutely right. I'm losing friends left and right over here for my...problems...but the real, true friends and companions I have...have stuck by me through all the bad times and continue to cheer me on because they can separate that from who I am - from the person they KNOW has the best intentions - because they've been around long enough to see it.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:47:01 UTC from web-
@clayinthecarpet I'm really glad you have the pleasure of knowing that kind of friendship.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:55:16 UTC from web
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@vt3c It's times like that I've wished I could record the person yelling and play it back to them when they're sane.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:45:01 UTC from web -
@vt3c She's still cray-cray and needs psychological evaluation. I hope you're smart enough to not take what she says to heart and let it affect you in life.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:45:06 UTC from web -
@vt3c Get a shield
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:45:19 UTC from web -
@vt3c Oh that. I did that with my foster parents a lot for not supporting my retaining Judaism whilst their family was pretty strict Lutheran.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:46:31 UTC from web -
@vt3c When she flips out, just call the cops. If they get there and she's in a fit of rage, they'll take her in for a psychological evaluation, and professionals will deal with the issue.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:48:09 UTC from web -
@vt3c I LITERALLY want to just hug you for a few minutes right now. That's some bullmurdock.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:50:41 UTC from web -
@vt3c That's more than enough to call the cops for domestic disturbance.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:53:03 UTC from web -
@vt3c Feel free to talk with me anytime you want on Skype or here. I may not have all the answers, but I can certainly try to help.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:53:26 UTC from web -
@vt3c Then her illness is a barrier that won't let you talk to her. She's accountable for her actions, and some day she'll realize her misery was never your fault, only her own. But she's not her actions. Her potential as a human being isn't limited by her illness. She could one day become the mother you deserve, and, if I were in your position, I'd try to love her for that, but I'd keep my distance if arguing didn't help. Granted my mother never threw things at me (though she did throw me sometimes) and she usually loved me. Even when I drove her to hysterics as a kid she eventually forgave me, and so does my wife. (I married my mother apparently.) I mean, I don't know what you're going through. If she can never speak a kind word to you then that's something I haven't experienced, and I'm sorry. If the illness is really that strong then you'd best avoid it dutifully (even by legal means if necessary), and hope for better days when she'll accept your love as her son.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:54:10 UTC from web -
@vt3c You're just giving away your mental health for free.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:56:30 UTC from web-
@nerthos @vt3c Maybe you could talk with your dad about reporting her to CPS. It could lead to getting her professional state-funded help.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:05:20 UTC from web
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@vt3c I'm amazed at the denial sometimes. It's one thing I'm firmly set against. Without being nasty, holding a loved one accountable for being an abuser is really important in my opinion, and it's good your dad backed you up.
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 08:59:54 UTC from web
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:06:49 UTC from web
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@vt3c Pony is absolutely right
Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:06:56 UTC from web-
@nerthos That's not to say you shouldn't love her. You should love her in the way that helps her best.
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:07:45 UTC from web
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:08:36 UTC from web
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Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:09:44 UTC from web
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@vt3c Some day you'll wake up. Hopefully before any lasting damage is done.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:10:23 UTC from web -
@vt3c There can be a a million good things that happen in between, but what you described is still abuse regardless. I'm glad the date seems to be very close that she'll get help. The "maybe" is all that concerns me.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:12:42 UTC from web -
@vt3c It's your health on the line, not mine.
Monday, 20-Jan-14 09:12:53 UTC from web
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