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Hello RDN, i am having some trouble with my girlfriend, any one feel like helping out?
Wednesday, 14-May-14 02:04:27 UTC from web-
@daringdave I've been in a few relationships, what's up?
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@daringdave Whats the problem
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@northernnarwhal i am just having some weird feelings about her. we are having a problem with a "friend" of hers. he keeps on trying to make of move onto to her but she does not exactly stop him. I love her a lot but she has already cheated on me twice with him, she regrets it but,i am just confused and i do not know what to do
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@daringdave sure
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@daringdave Have you tried talking to the friend?
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@daringdave Do you want the blunt answer or the wishy washy answer that doesnt help
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@northernnarwhal He is supremely jealous and will not talk to me because he hates me with a passion that burns like the fires of hell
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@daringdave Alright, if she's cheated on you twice, drop that mangoes. She ain't treating you right, and the fact that it's happened twice means she isn't gonna change.
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@scoot i dont want to hurt her i still want to stay together and so does she, its just we are both happier without him but she does not see it.
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@daringdave Nobody who has cheated on you twice is worth your time. Move on.
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@daringdave If you really love her and want to stay with her, you need to be forward with her and explain to her that she needs to make a choice.
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@northernnarwhal The issue with that is she can say one thing and do another. Either the other guy just disappears forever, or she does. The former seems unlikely.
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@northernnarwhal i have tried, and she gets very upset and sad, she has left him for a while just because i asked, but eventually she gets sucked back to him somehow
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@daringdave Sounds to me like your girlfriend's a whore and you'd be better off ditching her as soon as possible. Sorry to be blunt, but that's pretty much all I can say at this point.
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@daringdave She isn't going to change, dude. Find a new lady who is totally into you and doesn't even care about other guys, it's much better than trying to patch together something that doesnt work.
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@scoot That's true, maybe I'm not the best judge because I have dumb love goggles that give my girlfriend more chances than necessary.
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@daringdave Maybe you two would be better off as friends then, as you could still spend time together but you don't have to worry about her cheating on you.
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@northernnarwhal I've been in awful relationships and cheated on, it can't be repaired and just ends badly if you keep trying.
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@scoot I've had the ultimatum method work for me before, but I've left a girl once because of how promiscuously she was behaving.
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@northernnarwhal Nah, if you have to resort to an ultimatum it's already a disaster. She shouldn't have to be kept on a leash, she should just /like you/
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@scoot It was only once, not twice, and she was genuinely sorry. I wasn't spending enough time with her.
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@northernnarwhal I don't know that makes it OK.
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@scoot The problem with that is... i might not find a new girl to fill her space. I am not exactly the most desirable of guys
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@daringdave Better than having a girl who won't stop going off with some other guy. I'd honestly rather be a single guy who isn't getting cheated on.
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@daringdave Ah, she's keeping you on the "you can't do better than me" track. Well, believe me, yes you can. Anything is better than a skank like that.
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@mrmattimation well she does the opposite actually, she says that i can get someone better, but i know that i cannot
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@daringdave You'll find someone. I'm far from desirable myself but once you put yourself out there you'll be sure to find others who like you for who you are.
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@daringdave She's trying to push you away then. Give up.
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@daringdave If she says something like that she's not better at all, she's full of herself.
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@scoot *sigh* when i first met her i had a feeling in my heart that she was different from everyone else. maybe she isn't so different from the others after all
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@scoot well it feels more like she is dragging me in, that she is keeping me in because of how many people she has lost because of her ability too annoy someone too much
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@daringdave Hey, look, I know stuff like this is difficult, believe me. I'm still having trouble finding a guy or gal right for me. And, admittedly, that may be through my own faults. I can do and say a lot of boneheaded things sometimes! But yeah, I've blown more chances than I can count. So why do I keep going? Because I know that somewhere out there, there's a nice artist woman waiting for me. There are seven billion people on the planet. One of them is for you.
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@daringdave Whatever, those are her problems, not yours. If she had been faithful this whole time I'd be saying hold on to her, but she hasn't. She isn't worth putting up with her issues and having to fight for her, if she liked you this wouldn't be a problem.
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@mrmattimation Big post but I redashed anyway because that's a great point.
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@mrmattimation He/She doesnt have to be an artist, Matt. You could have a lot of fun teaching your girl/boyfriend how to art.
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@daringdave Challenge the other guy to a duel. If that doesn't work, challenge her to a duel. If that doesn't work, keep fighting duels until a blood golem rises from all the death and carnage and becomes your new girlfriend.
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@nerthos Challenge them to a children's card game.
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@northernnarwhal WITH GUNS
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@scoot If they're not already interested in the same stuff I am without my influence, a relationship probably wouldn't last very long.
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@nerthos i like this idea
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@mrmattimation It'd be funny if that one girl just happened to speak another language exclusively.
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@nerthos AND LOTS OF SHOUTING
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@mrmattimation Not true. Focus on things you DO have in common, cartoons or musical tastes or youtube videos you both like and then share other interests so they BECOME common interests. You don't think I know how relationships work?
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@scoot well, i am going to wait for something to happen, when it does, then i will break up
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@daringdave See? Stick with me and you'll get far, kid.
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@nerthos No, on motorcycles
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@daringdave Not a good idea but sure, wait til she goes behind your back again and end it there, or end it before that happens and find someone better. Your call.
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@scoot i will wait till she does something then i will unleash fifteen years of pent up rage on her
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@daringdave ...whoa, wait, has this been going on for fifteen years?
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@daringdave uh wow dont attack her
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@scoot oh no no no, i am sort of a pacifist, i will just speak my mind and call it off there
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@scoot This message must be very true because my desktop notifications decided to alert me of it forty times.
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@mrmattimation no, its just my life has been full of people backstabbing me and using me
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@daringdave OK trust me, waiting won't make it better. But fine.
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@mrmattimation It IS true.
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@daringdave I hate drama in relationships.
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@scoot Y U so wise?
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