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    You know, I'm not particularly worried about myself, but I have 3 younger siblings..... How are they going to take this?

    Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:00:51 UTC from web
    1. Jonathan Conrad Jonathan Conrad

      @fencingblind The younger, the better, usually. Everyone will be overcompensating and trying to be considerate of others that they imagine would not be as able to understand, but the problem is the so-called grown-ups that think that after all of these years, that they would be better off by canceling their right-hand-man's contract. It is kind of backwards and desperate thinking that many funny movies are made about, but in the end, all we have as each other, so you get rid of one set of personal problems and open yourself to a new member to move in and try to adjust.

      Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:05:19 UTC from web
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        @fnordly 9, 10, and 13, my siblings ages. Too young? Too old? Where would you say?

        Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:11:59 UTC from web
        1. Jonathan Conrad Jonathan Conrad

          @fencingblind You've also got to consider their respective genders and their interests and what the custody arrangements end up being (My folks battled for years, before my mom got custody, and my dad left town.) and how each of the children and the parents sub-group. (My dad and I liked doing outdoorsy stuff together, but my younger brother liked to kick it at the house, as did my mother. They didn't hang out with each other, they just both preferred to spend time alone as to being with my dad and myself.) Even nine years old is enough in these days for a person to have a social life outside of home.

          Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:18:42 UTC from web
        2. Jonathan Conrad Jonathan Conrad

          @fencingblind Mainly though, it is really more about the kids trying to be kind to both parents and also being considerate of themselves and not getting bogged down with adult soap operas. The more hobbies the better during a divorce. I would think that TV, for instance, would be a terrible hobby, because it will crap out when you really want something to take your mind away from your social setting, whereas artistic pursuits and outdoorsy stuff and socializing is all really good for getting out of the more commonly more dysfunctional home.

          Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:24:32 UTC from web
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            @fnordly Sorry for taking so long to respond. From what I can tell the divorce is going to be a mutual agreement, and my dad knows that with his back problems he can't support children on his own right now so they're going to be staying with mom and he's going to be getting someplace nearby to live so we can visit.

            Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:50:09 UTC from web
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              @fencingblind That juxtaposition of "back problems" and "support children" amuses me.

              Sunday, 21-Aug-11 03:53:30 UTC from web
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                @starshine His words >.>

                Sunday, 21-Aug-11 04:13:33 UTC from web
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                  @fencingblind Whoever's words, it's funny... can't support children with a bad back.

                  Sunday, 21-Aug-11 04:20:32 UTC from web
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                    @starshine Oh lol, I thought you were getting at something else.

                    Sunday, 21-Aug-11 04:37:31 UTC from web
            2. Jonathan Conrad Jonathan Conrad

              @fencingblind Mainly, let everyone know that your relationship with them hasn't changed, then go on with your life as if there has been no change. I mean, psych yourself into believing that there is not a problem for you to fret about. (Everything is going to be okay; there is nothing that can be done; let it be.) Then, get some sleep. Wake up refreshed and take things one step at a time. It will be easy. The worry is the hard part.

              Sunday, 21-Aug-11 04:34:42 UTC from web
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                @fnordly I'll do that, thank you.

                Sunday, 21-Aug-11 04:37:45 UTC from web
                1. Jonathan Conrad Jonathan Conrad

                  @fencingblind Anytime.

                  Sunday, 21-Aug-11 04:41:45 UTC from web