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Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:05:57 UTC from web-
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@pokestrike I'm not buying you a soda
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:07:44 UTC from web-
@mrmattimation Dammit, can I have some Pocky at least?
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:08:33 UTC from web
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Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:06:27 UTC from web
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Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:06:49 UTC from web
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If I changed my user name I wonder how badly that would ess with people
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:10:48 UTC from web-
@pony I'd freak out.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:12:42 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:13:57 UTC from web
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@pony You should.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:14:14 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:15:58 UTC from web
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@pony Glad to help.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:16:34 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:18:37 UTC from web
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@pony I'd like it if you did.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:19:14 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty My ego is pleasantly large right now. It gets painful when it's too large to fill my expectation of myself. xD
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:24:37 UTC from web-
@pony Maybe you could share. My ego is so small it's practically microscopic.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:25:32 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty I wish it were so simple sometimes, but then it wouldn't be as rewarding when you succeed at realizing your own self worth.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:29:26 UTC from web-
@pony There is no evidence of anything about me worth anything to myself or anyone else.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:31:19 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty take an active approach! I recommend the Twilight Sparkle method. .. books http://www.amazon.com/Reinventing-Your-Life-Breakthrough-Negative/dp/0452272041/
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:34:43 UTC from web-
@pony I could. Though I don't know when I'd find the time. Also, no spare money for a while because counseling and medication aren't cheap.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:38:12 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty It's less than $20 but if you don't think you'll read it then that'd be a waste. If you want to be happy you have to make time to work on it.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:42:33 UTC from web-
@pony Darn. If only I didn't have so much to do. Ugh.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:43:49 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty you may need to slow down if you really don't have time. Your well being is worth it, even if if means you get less money, etc.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:45:44 UTC from web-
@pony I suppose. All I've been doing lately is trying to suppress my sadness and, quite frankly, that's exhausting. And it's just coming out as anger and short-temperedness instead so it's not really working anyway.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:50:44 UTC from StatusNet iPhone
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Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:48:46 UTC from web
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@pony I only have a career counselor, unfortunately. I don't think she's trained for other things.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:51:27 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty I gotcha. Rebel against sadness. Fighting it actively rather than ignoring or suppressing it is necessary if you want to overcome it. If you can't buy a book then the internets have some resources too.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:54:49 UTC from web-
@pony Fighting is hard. I don't get how people do it. Ugh.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:56:45 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty We usually start with information.. books.. internets.. also reaching out to others including professionals. Making time for those things is the first step, but that can be broken down into smaller steps if it's difficult.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:59:35 UTC from web-
@pony Man, this is gonna take forever.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:02:29 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:07:00 UTC from web
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@pony I'm more or less afraid that by the time I'm better the damage I've done to the people closest to me will be irreparable and they won't want anything to do with me. I guess that's really my own damn problem though.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:09:49 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty The worthwhile ones will give you a second chance down the road if you show them you've changed, and you can meet new folks as well to build friendships. Look at the positive. It's not easy, but if you continue to dwell on the negative you'll only make it worse.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:17:03 UTC from web-
@pony We'll see how worthwhile these people end up being. And... yeah, positive. I can be fixed. Woo woo.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:23:29 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:24:40 UTC from web
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@pony How the hell do you people manage to stay positive. It's exhausting going against what you really think.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:28:37 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty zen. Recognize both the good and the bad. Just let yourself BE with whatever you're feeling without any judgement from yourself about whether that feeling is good or bad. This philosophy changed my life. Another book I recommend for developing this skill/attitude is "The Miracle of Mindfulness" by Thich Nhat Han (think I spelled that right maybe).
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:33:36 UTC from web-
@pony That doesn't make too much sense to me. I instinctively know whether a feeling is good or bad by the presence or absence of that terrible feeling in my stomach. I guess it involves a major change of mindset.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:36:49 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty It does require a certain mindset yes. At first just learn how to observe your feelings and thoughts. Look at them without becoming entrenched in them. If you feel intense pain, for example, stand back and try simply noticing, "I'm in a whole lot of pain." It works for any feeling. Once you've learned to do this you'll be better at not panicking and getting wrapped up in how you feel. When this is the case you'll be able to gently guide yourself toward something that can help what you're feeling rather than trying to bludgeon your emotions by telling them (and yourself) that they're bad.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:40:29 UTC from web-
@pony That sounds like it's going to take years and years to master. No one's going to stick by my side and see me through this for that long.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:42:27 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:43:53 UTC from web
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@pony Man, but the negative is more realistic. I suppose I can always count on... uh, my family I think?
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:46:10 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
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@awlderpy I presume the autumn sky is lovely.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:48:42 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
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@awlderpy That would be really great right about now. Too bad it's dark out.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:51:27 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
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@yodelerty I can attest to the fact that you're wrong. The positive and the negative are both equally realistic, but one may become more likely than the other depending on how you choose to focus.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:48:25 UTC from web-
@pony I suppose you're right. I guess I'll do some research and pick up a self-help book on payday or something.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:50:29 UTC from StatusNet iPhone
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@scribus Can't afford.
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 01:50:45 UTC from StatusNet iPhone
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@yodelerty that book came recommended by my wife's doctors. The therapist had one criticism which was that the book focuses heavily on early childhood and parent relationships which is a bit narrow since adult experiences also should be considered
Thursday, 24-Oct-13 00:44:40 UTC from web
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