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I think I am going to lose it! My girlfriend always postpones coming to visit me because of her sister. Weather it's because she's sick, or because she has to lay with her all night long to make sure she sleeps. Combine that with her mother's paper route, and that gets her an 8:00 curfew. She only tries to talk via text. And it's always depressing messages where she thinks I'm leaving her. NEVER TEXTS ABOUT ANYTHING WITHOUT IT DIVING INTO THAT SAME CONVERSATION! Right now, her sister's sick and she's staying her mother wants to know if she can come over friday instead of today. And I bet you any money that if I question it, she'll back it up with being loyal to her sister. I can't stand another delay! I need sensible advice because I have seen her only on 7 given days in over the 1 month we've been together! http://ur1.ca/5fya0
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@citrusrain I can't say I've been in a relationship, but as far as I can tell you have the choice of not pushing anything on her (If you want to stay with her. Which it seems you do) and not try forcing her to choose between her family and you. If you let her know you support her helping her sister, maybe she'll fell more at ease to talk about other things and not be so quick to jump to conclusions. It wouldn't really be right to blame her for caring about her family or for her sister getting sick. That being said, you also have the option of deciding this isn't what you want and ending things. This isn't something you should decide quickly or easily however, and especially when you seem angry and may be more susceptible to making a unwanted or bad decision. Just calm down and once you have a clear head, think about what you're willing to do for her and whether you're willing to wait.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:19:18 UTC from web-
@fallinwinter Well, another thing is really bugging me... It really does not help me out when my mom is trying to make me ask her if her sister is really her daughter. How the hay do you even go about asking a question like that? It's eating away at me just thinking about it!
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@citrusrain Okay, well firstly, I'm not exactly feeling the whole "use daughter's boyfriend to buy us stuff." That just seems rude. If you really like her, then you'll have to find a way to get to a middle ground with them all. Though, if she actually wants you to let them freeload off you, then obviously that's something to take into consideration and doesn't seem worth your time. I'd say your mother meddling doesn't help, but if she knows about their attempts to make you run errands and get them dinner, it makes a little more sense. Once again, it seems to all come down to whether she knows what her family is trying to do to you and if she doesn't like them doing it. Other than that, it once again relies on how much you want things to work out between the two of you and how far you're willing to go to do that.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:35:53 UTC from web-
@fallinwinter Hehe, I see we have the same idea. xD
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:38:46 UTC from web-
@jinny I guess this is at least some good sign, sorta. Considering I have yet to have a girlfriend, I can take peace in knowing I have a moderately sound judgement or at least one that's gotten someone somewhere.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:44:59 UTC from web-
@fallinwinter Yes, hehe, you have particularly sound judgement. Hopefully you won't be the lovestruck idiot that I was. xD
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:47:29 UTC from web-
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:48:22 UTC from web
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@fallinwinter Yes, hehe, love made me do some cr8zy things.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:50:17 UTC from web
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@fallinwinter Well, I would normally be willing to lend. But I don't lend to someone twice without them paying me back before asking again. So, it's their 1 freebie. Burger King was just a very bad choice on their part.... Spreadsheets are ready for me to work on... Be back when time allows.
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@citrusrain My ex-Wife had a big family, valued, family over all else. Even me. Couldn't stand it. I have a small family, we're close, but I don't feel I need to be harshly loyal to them. We all know where we stand. If you don't have the same mentality as her, family-wise. Then it's gonna be a pain in the flank. You could always try and spend time with them, I mean they could be cool. Dunno, that's another option. Just giving my 2 cents from experience. Good luck, but yeah I'd still say give it a shot hopefully things will normalize after the stress of her ill sister subsides.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:23:49 UTC from web-
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:25:10 UTC from web
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@fallinwinter I'm doing great my friend. ^^ How are you?
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:27:28 UTC from web-
@jinny Finishing up the last bit of FO:E's newest chapter (41) and making sure all my powerpoint project's slides are functioning. How're you?
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:37:14 UTC from web-
@fallinwinter Sweet sounds very productive. ^^ I'm just working on some web design stuff for work. >_> Not my favorite, but whatever, it's different.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:40:35 UTC from web -
@fallinwinter I still need to read Fallout: Equestria at some point. Some point when I'm not drowning in 1000 other projects.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:41:11 UTC from web
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@jinny They're never really ib the same room, and they even used her to get me to buy the whole family dinner... At Burger King... For $30. That was a mistake. The next day they had her ask me if I wanted to join them for dinner, and if I could stop at the store and buy some pop.
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@citrusrain No offense, but they sound like a buncha freeloaders. The more I hear about it, I'd say, doesn't seem like the trouble, but you have to follow your own heart. ^^ I had to learn that the hard way. xD
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:31:11 UTC from web-
@jinny Well, they're poor. So I can understand it. But it's not the only reason I don't like going down there... Their next-door neighbor is a gossip. A really nosy & pushy gossip. Made me have to answer questions that I really don't feel like I should have ever had to answer.
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@citrusrain Yes, I suppose that is understandable, and if you want to get in good, with the family I guess that would be fine. Though I don't like the idea of you know the boy friend having to spot them cash or whatever. I mean just think if you got married and they're like, "Oh yeah, we foreclosed on our house so we can move in with you guys now." That is annoying as well, that kinda neighbor is far from pleasant. You should have just politely stated that you were expected inside. ;)
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:38:32 UTC from web-
@jinny The question was planted in her head. Then she texted me.
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@citrusrain About her parents moving in?
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:45:31 UTC from web-
@jinny No. The neighbor was talking to her trying to get information or something, put the idea in her head of me "proposing" as early as Christmas. Now I know why people hate that lady.
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@citrusrain Oh wow, yeah that is rather odd. Her speculating that you should propose so quickly. I mean it's not unheard of to propose in a short time period, because when you know, you know. Her meddling though certainly isn't a positive factor though.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 13:05:03 UTC from web
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@citrusrain Okay, all things aside, being poor still doesn't mean they have the right to try and get you to buy things. Or more specifically, that you are forced to buy them things. While it may be nice once in a while for you to help out or do what you can for them if they're going to be part of your family, they shouldn't be the ones "hinting" at you to help them. It just doesn't work that way. As for the neighbor, I've had bad neighbors for how many years now. Simply put, you ignore them. They don't have the right to bother you and that means you have the right to step right by them completely.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:41:49 UTC from web
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@citrusrain Like it's worth the trouble I mean.
Wednesday, 19-Oct-11 12:31:24 UTC from web
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