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  1. >Crush asks for my birth name
    >Tell her
    >She asks if she van use it when we talk
    >No

    Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:05:25 UTC from web
    1. @nerthos Weenie

      Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:09:23 UTC from web
      1. @redenchilada @northernnarwhal I pretty much never use it out of paperwork and talking with people I've met in places where I was required to use it. Plus names bind, and I was only ever called by it in a romantic setting by one person in the past and that... didn't turn out well.

        Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:15:01 UTC from web
        1. @nerthos Sorry to hear about that, I know the feeling all too well :(

          Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:16:34 UTC from web
          1. @nethernarwhal Oh, no, I'm not really marked by it or anything. Plus, considereing after four years that one girl is basically a husk of what she was, I'd say I got the good end of the deal. I'd avoid using my birth name even if all that had never happened.

            Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:18:41 UTC from web
            1. @nerthos I wish I got the good end of the deal

              Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:23:39 UTC from web
              1. @nethernarwhal You're a far more emotional guy than I am though. What happened back then was basically I was competing with this other guy for her, and then one day while she was having an attack of irrationality due to a self perception issue I copy-pasted some stuff from other friends to make her see it was all in her eyes, and she misread a sentence from "she's being an idiot" to "she's an idiot", went into meltdown, we stopped talking, I said "dole it, I'm not going to get myself dragged by someone else's inability to deal with her own emotions" and she ended up dating the other guy. It was a really crappy relationship that screwed her up and her way of dealing with that was to date another guy and then another and so on, and after a couple years we started talking again and she was mentally ravaged by the whole thing as each relationship took a bigger toll on her. I basically told her "you picked wrong" lol.

                Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:30:38 UTC from web
                1. @nerthos Because honestly, like hell I'm going to let someone who proves herself lesser actually affect me. By being stupid she only managed to get me to stop liking her and leave her to deal with it on her own. Which she failed to do.

                  Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:32:27 UTC from web
                2. @nerthos I think emotionless love is a cruel contradiction, and that feeling empty after someone you relinquish yourself to leaves is a very human

                  Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:33:51 UTC from web
                  1. @nethernarwhal *response

                    Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:33:57 UTC from web
                  2. @nethernarwhal It wasn't emotionless at the time, but I wasn't going to get love overpower logic. Feeling empty might be human, but human is not always a good thing. I am, among all the people I know, the best at dealing with loss. I get over it with pretty much no ill effects in a few days tops.

                    Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:36:40 UTC from web
                    1. @nerthos I dunno, that's just my personal philosophy. But, as you said, I'm a much more emotional person, for better or worse.

                      Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:37:47 UTC from web
                      1. @nethernarwhal I want to live through eternity. It's not compatible with being "human" in every single way.

                        Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:39:28 UTC from web
                        1. @nerthos I'm personally fascinated by the impermanence of the human experience. It's interesting to think our existence is intrinsically flawed with an expiration date.

                          Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:42:37 UTC from web
                          1. @nethernarwhal I'm fond of fixing flaws. Mortality is one. We simply don't have enough time to do everything we can do, hence I believe it must be fixed. And it can.

                            Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:44:09 UTC from web
                            1. @nerthos Only time will tell for sure, though we ourselves may never see that solution (cruel irony, isn't it?)

                              Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:44:49 UTC from web
                              1. @nethernarwhal I fully intend to see the day it's fixed. The brain doesn't really age as long as it's used enough, and everything else can be changed. Worst case scenario I'll have to get spare parts often. The drawbacks of constantly fixing the body, like weakness and a destroyed immune system can be patched up with servo-assisted hermetic armor. The technology in the field of prosthetics and robotics (including direct nerve connection to operate prosthetics) is advancing enough that I'll be able to acquire/build the latter, and mount a full life support suite on it by the second half of my natural lifespan.

                                Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:50:17 UTC from web
    2. @nerthos Smooth

      Wednesday, 29-Oct-14 04:09:44 UTC from web