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I swear one day I'm going to go to jail for killing my girlfriend. Every damn week I make sure things are fine, and without fault, every weekend she manages to get depressed over some bullpapaya and we can't do anything. One day I'm going to be dragged to the police station with a rib in each hand and completely covered in blood.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:09:04 UTC from web-
@nerthos I don't consider dating because I'm sure I'd drive someone crazy in the same way.
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@takegrapeakenji I love her to no end but sometimes I get too fed up with stupid crap. If she got depressive over things that made any sense, I'd understand. But I can't remember the last time she got like that over something that existed outside her head.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:21:03 UTC from web-
@nerthos that's depression though. Patience is all you can have and just to be an ear for them.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:22:49 UTC from web-
@awl Yeah but I'd like to have a weekend without any of that in the way now and then. Is that too much to ask?
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:24:05 UTC from web-
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:27:33 UTC from web
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@awl I just want her to keep it down for a week so I can calm down and have fun. Either that or a reimbursement of all the time effort and money I put into her. I'd be fine with either.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:30:12 UTC from web-
@nerthos the former could happen but it won't be like 'keeping it down'. It would be more like a high point. I don't know her though so couldn't be sure.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:33:56 UTC from web-
@awl At this point I don't much care if she actually feels better or just fakes it, as long as I get a week or so of things going fine and being able to do stuff like we used to.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:35:35 UTC from web-
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:45:19 UTC from web
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@nerthos So leave. If you don't care how she feels, you don't care about her. Like, fundamentally.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:54:27 UTC from web-
@scribus It's figurative. I do care, I just want a temporary break from the crap to do enjoyable stuff. A battery can't run forever without recharging, and sometimes you have to be without a phone if you've overused it.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:56:58 UTC from web-
Friday, 10-Jun-16 20:04:37 UTC from web
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@scribus two depressive days a month or so I could put up with, two good days a week makes me want to go sub zero on her.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 20:09:56 UTC from web
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@nerthos I stand by my earlier reply.
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@maiyannah That's what I say. She keeps getting depressed over all these supposed flaws but the only real flaw she has is that she convinces herself of fake stuff. Other than that she's fine.
Friday, 10-Jun-16 19:44:23 UTC from web-
@nerthos Its a coping mechanism. I know this because it's what fed my own depression when I was younger - you are so used to being told you're Fluffle Puff that you start believing it yourself, not because you truly DO believe it, but because it's easier to just accept what's being said than it is to challenge it. This makes it difficult to break out of that cycle too, because if you're challenging that perception in the other way you're still triggering that mechanism. It's really something that she needs to figure out herself, but sitting down and addressing it directly for what it is MIGHT yield dividends. You would know her better than I, though, and what you have or haven't already done.
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