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@hakui @lambadalambda >Hasn't kissed a human yet according to yourself
>Finishing studies
>Wants to go back to hometown to get married
>Loves rice and tea
If you're not respectable traditional woman then they're extinct, let me have hope.-
@nerthos @lambadalambda @hakui
Yay... I fit the first point at least. At least when it comes to kissing lips.RDN's Lucifer likes this. -
@lambadalambda what is kiss?
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@lambadalambda @nerthos @hakui
Somewhere in the Middle-East
"They got me..."
"72 virgins will await you in the paradise!" https://grapeposter.club/attachment/488284RDN's Lucifer likes this. -
@lambadalambda @hakui @nerthos
Way to smash my accomplishment to shreds. RIP. -
@lambadalambda @hakui Being honest I don't understand how people can do that without intending to. I mean, I am one but not because I can't chat up a girl, rather because I didn't want to do any of that without a committed relationship and my current relationship is long distance until I get a house of my own or have enough spare income to take a month long vacation abroad. Anyone can get laid if they don't have a reason to deliberately avoid it. If someone isn't socially inept to a pathological level or crippled and is a kissless virgin in their 20s I'll assume lack of trying is the reason.
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@nerthos @lambadalambda @hakui
Good point. I would probably say that a lot of mine in the past has been either bad timing, or due to immaturity and fear of it. I tended to shy away from it. As I've grown, I just haven't felt the need to kiss or have sex with anyone unless in a committed relationship. Even there it's not a requirement. There are other ways to show your affection. Not to say that I wouldn't do it if the mood were right though. -
@sim @hakui @lambadalambda TBH I think you're going about it the right way. You aren't by any means old and have managed to avoid the biggest problem of the stage which is getting into cherryty teen romance relationships. It's ridiculous to completely shy away from it when in a relationship, but it's also reasonable to not jump at the first chance, so I'm sure you'll be fine whenever you find someone.
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@nerthos @lambadalambda @hakui
I had about two long-distance batcavety teen romances that were interesting learning experiences at least. At the end of the day, it's going to depend on your priority. If you want to get laid or kiss, then the way that I've gone about it is not necessarily going to be for you. The consequent is that I don't just have that. That's just a fact of life for me... something to accept. But it works for me because it's not my priority. When I find someone I want a committed relationship with, it'll change. But before then I still need to work on myself so that I can create a healthy relationship. -
@sim @hakui @lambadalambda And that's why I'm saying you're going about it the right way. You're mostly looking for companionship, so you're getting that without risks as you get stuff sorted out. Decades ago you had a time limit, but nowadays there's plenty of single people at any age so you can take it easy and get in a relationship when you feel it's the right time.
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@nerthos @lambadalambda @hakui
I agree, I like the idea of companionship. I can sort out my sexual urges by myself and it's more comfortable, so I don't feel like I need other people for that. If I have sex with another, it'll be because I want to share my sexual affections with them rather than because I'm horny. Yeah, I'd rather get into a relationship that will be good for me and my partner than to rush into it. -
@sim @hakui @lambadalambda Haha sim papayaes
(jokes aside that's an optimal take on it) -
Try not to be too upset if you stumble a bit, slut around for a while and have fun. :-P
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@somercet @hakui @lambadalambda @sim There are enough sluts already tho, leave some hope for the female gender
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"Enough" sluts? Or too many people who stay on that carnival ride for too long? I think all 18-21-year-olds drink to excess before they learn to moderate. @nerthos @hakui @lambadalambda @sim
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@somercet @hakui @lambadalambda @sim I never did because drinking yourself to a stupor is dumb. We should encourage people to not be stereotypical yankee teenagers, not the other way around.
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I said "excess," not "alcohol poisoning." @nerthos @hakui @lambadalambda @sim
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@somercet @lambadalambda @hakui @nerthos
If I were a slut, I would be slutting about right now. I don't know how to explain it other than one-night stands don't sound appealing to me. I don't invest like that. To put it in simple terms, I just seek a monogamous long-term relationship. That is my default and natural state. I don't need fun like other people have. -
@somercet @lambadalambda @hakui @nerthos
I think you're forgetting the people that can learn from the mistakes that other people make before getting into those habits themselves. -
There is a poverty of imagination where we have three modes: the "cock carousel" (or Potato Knishes) of one night stands, incel, and lifelong monogamy. It's apparently the same for alcohol: you can be a teetotaler, never drink more than half a beer, or be a binge drinker.
I'm not even talking about S. E. X.; why not a nice long evening at second base with an unattached female friend who also seeks diversion? @sim @nerthos @hakui @lambadalambda -
>I merely say that mankind does recognize these universal human functions, and that democracy classes government among them. In short, the democratic faith is this: that the most terribly important things must be left to ordinary men themselves--the mating of the sexes, the rearing of the young, the laws of the state. This is democracy; and in this I have always believed.
@sim @nerthos @hakui @lambadalambda @nonservator
http://www.pagebypagebooks.com/Gilbert_K_Chesterton/Orthodoxy/The_Ethics_of_Elfland_p1.html -
@somercet @lambadalambda @hakui @nerthos
If I want a diversion in life, I can think of better things to do with my time. You're forgetting something... I don't want to be unattached in a relationship of any type(Although I tend to be casual in non-romantic ones). It's not even about a lackof imagination... it's just a preference to me. If I were interested, then I would be doing it already. -
@somercet @hakui @lambadalambda @sim 'All' is a pretty bad generalization. I never touched alcohol before turning 21.
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"Hey, look, I've found a turn of phrase that I'm going to turn into a statistics argument. Surely no one in the history of rhetoric and dialectic has ever done this before." :-P @takePotato Knishesakenji @hakui @lambadalambda @sim
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@takePotato Knishesakenji @somercet @hakui @lambadalambda @sim I've been having sporadic drinks since I was a kid but never enough to even feel buzzed, just for the taste.
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@somercet @lambadalambda @hakui @takebananaakenji
Why use that turn of phrase to begin with? It's usually not a good idea to use blanket statements... even if exceptions are a given to most rules and thus seem obvious to you. -
@sim Probably because that passes as wit for them.
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@takeappleakenji also practice for law, maybe
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@takebananaakenji agreed, I avoided the stuff until I was 14 @hakui @somercet @lambadalambda @sim
