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... and it comes crashing down. The third person I connected with on a level that I thought meant something, and apparently they didn't have the heart to stop themselves from leading me on until three days after leaving me with very little doubt I had a relationship. So much for the first trip out of the gate in seven years...
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:20:09 UTC from web-
@chiefanchor That's got to sting, man. I'm sorry.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:21:11 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty Like nothing else, believe me. I'm just so damned lost right now; I have no clue what to do, because I honestly still have feelings for this person, and can't just set them aside.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:22:25 UTC from web-
@chiefanchor Aw, man, I know how that feels. Of course, I'm a stupid teenager, so relationships I guess aren't as big a deal for me. Hope you feel better soon. :)
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:24:53 UTC from web -
@chiefanchor I've been on both ends of that, buddy. It stings, sure, but it does fade. Although it's hard to still see the person in the same way I guess.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:25:31 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty That's the thing - I honestly can't see myself changing how I feel about her at all. No one else that I've met, besides two others who I've tried with before, has managed to make me feel this way about them. And I honestly mean no one.\
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:27:27 UTC from web-
@chiefanchor That's a horrible feeling. I don't know what to say. Sorry man. I hope you can deal with it in a healthy way.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:29:18 UTC from StatusNet iPhone-
@yodelerty A healthy way? What healthy way is there? I still love her and I know that I can't change how I feel about her at all. This is the first time in my life that I've encountered this particular situation in a relationship, and I legitimately do not know what to do.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:31:19 UTC from web-
@chiefanchor I'm sorry. There are definitely better people to ask than me to help with that. People more experienced and in a better state of mind than I.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:33:27 UTC from StatusNet iPhone
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@chiefanchor that is why i donr do relationships... yeah, sure, that is why.....
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:25:42 UTC from web
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Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:22:14 UTC from web
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@chiefanchor So, here's the situation: I've been led on - and the girl-in-question apparently led herself on as well - and have had the first "relationship" I've had in seven years just dissolve. I still have feelings for her, and this will not change at all. Where do I go from here?
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:37:16 UTC from web-
@chiefanchor i'd tell you to ask @pony, but he is not here
Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:38:23 UTC from web -
@chiefanchor @mushi Professionals who study relationships and mental health will be able to guide you better than I can, but what I've learned from them in classes and by personal experience is that you'll be most ready for a new relationship when you're happy by yourself but still willing and open to new relationships. There's a lot more to say about it, of course, but that's the gist.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 04:20:10 UTC from web-
@pony That's what makes this whole situation as bad as it is: I love her, she claims that she doesn't see me as more than a friend, and I find myself unable to legitimately accept that. I'm in such a precarious position in this that I honestly don't know what to do with myself.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 04:33:15 UTC from web-
@chiefanchor it's hard to be happy alone. Even with good coping mechanisms there'll be a low period to endure after any relationship ends.
Monday, 11-Mar-13 06:26:57 UTC from web
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