Greater Fillydelphia Area, PA
Navy veteran, computer geek, film student; self-styled grizzled old salt-lick.
More details...chiefanchor
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@ceruleanspark Yeah, we had one of those really necessary talks today - she had other things to get off of her chest herself, so she was able to do that, and I was able to get us to communicate better in the process - particularly on emotional subjects.
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Situation update: apparently the leading-on that my "girlfriend" put me through, and the relationship that existed for three days, were equally far from the truth. There are feelings there, but she wasn't ready to act on them - leading to an awkward situation. We'll be giving it another shot when she feels she's ready.
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@minti thanks - and good to see you again
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Well, wish me luck. Going to see if I can talk about part of this problem at least.
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@ceruleanspark Again, thanks. It's all very much appreciated.
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@ceruleanspark Thanks for the thought-out answer. I'm already trying to figure this out, but it's not easy to come to terms with this.
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@yodelerty i don't know, though. I know how I feel, and I came to terms with that a bit, but I was seriously infuriated by some of the "advice" I was given. Manipulate someone into loving me? Do something that can be considered a crime, and will no doubt isolate me from mst of my friends? Ugh...
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Well, I got some sleep, but that doesn't seem to have helped. I woke up feeling about as bad as I felt last night.
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@hoit21 Oh, just something that caused me to rail into a few people who were giving sarcastic, or even seriously messed-up, advice on the matter.
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@hoit21 I'm sorry, I killed it with my troubles.
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Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:43:57 UTC from web
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@redenchilada The trouble is, I find myself unable to move on. Over the past two years, I've gotten to know her to the point that I felt like there was something there - which I held back, because I didn't want to push her away at the time. I finally came clean, and was played with as a result. Yet I still love her.
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@wafers Alright, since you can't seem to take a hint and respect a serious matter, I'm just going to tell you to stop.
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@wafers All the same, it'd be considered sexual assault because of the action.
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@wafers Do you seriously want me to get arrested on sexual assault charges?
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@nerthos NO. I will not respond to manipulation with further manipulation. That is a line that I will never cross.
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In the past four hours, I've already gotten mixed advice on this downright confusing and waylaying relationship problem I'm having. I'm nowhere closer to finding a possible solution than I was at the start - perhaps farther from one.
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@pony That's what makes this whole situation as bad as it is: I love her, she claims that she doesn't see me as more than a friend, and I find myself unable to legitimately accept that. I'm in such a precarious position in this that I honestly don't know what to do with myself.
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@mushi It's okay, it's just that I'm at such an awkward crossroads that I don't even want to take a step in any direction for fear of misstepping.
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@zeldatra Yes, I do, but NOT at the risk of pushing her away.
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@nerthos If it were that simple, I'd have done it. And the last damned thing I want to do is potentially alienate her.
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@zeldatra Yeah, you'll get flak and shrapnel for that. I put no stock in anything besides actually getting to know someone in-person.
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@mushi You could've ignored the repost, you know... I'm asking anyone for their advice here, because this territory is so foreign to me that I legitimately do not know what to do at all/.
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Reposting because... I seriously don't know what to do: I've been led on - and the girl-in-question apparently led herself on as well - and have had the first "relationship" I've had in seven years just dissolve. I still have feelings for her, and this will not change at all. Where do I go from here?
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@redenchilada I tried injecting a relationship discussion, but it's been terminated and resources were reallocated to the OS discussion.
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@chiefanchor So, here's the situation: I've been led on - and the girl-in-question apparently led herself on as well - and have had the first "relationship" I've had in seven years just dissolve. I still have feelings for her, and this will not change at all. Where do I go from here?
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@yodelerty A healthy way? What healthy way is there? I still love her and I know that I can't change how I feel about her at all. This is the first time in my life that I've encountered this particular situation in a relationship, and I legitimately do not know what to do.
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@yodelerty That's the thing - I honestly can't see myself changing how I feel about her at all. No one else that I've met, besides two others who I've tried with before, has managed to make me feel this way about them. And I honestly mean no one.\
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@yodelerty Like nothing else, believe me. I'm just so damned lost right now; I have no clue what to do, because I honestly still have feelings for this person, and can't just set them aside.
