chiefanchor

  1. @ceruleanspark Yeah, we had one of those really necessary talks today - she had other things to get off of her chest herself, so she was able to do that, and I was able to get us to communicate better in the process - particularly on emotional subjects.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 20:10:23 UTC from web in context
  2. Situation update: apparently the leading-on that my "girlfriend" put me through, and the relationship that existed for three days, were equally far from the truth. There are feelings there, but she wasn't ready to act on them - leading to an awkward situation. We'll be giving it another shot when she feels she's ready.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 20:06:59 UTC from web in context
  3. @minti thanks - and good to see you again

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 18:00:32 UTC from web in context
  4. Well, wish me luck. Going to see if I can talk about part of this problem at least.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 17:59:06 UTC from web in context
  5. @ceruleanspark Again, thanks. It's all very much appreciated.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 13:39:55 UTC from web in context
  6. @ceruleanspark Thanks for the thought-out answer. I'm already trying to figure this out, but it's not easy to come to terms with this.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 12:54:40 UTC from web in context
  7. @yodelerty i don't know, though. I know how I feel, and I came to terms with that a bit, but I was seriously infuriated by some of the "advice" I was given. Manipulate someone into loving me? Do something that can be considered a crime, and will no doubt isolate me from mst of my friends? Ugh...

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 12:21:03 UTC from web in context
  8. Well, I got some sleep, but that doesn't seem to have helped. I woke up feeling about as bad as I felt last night.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 12:17:02 UTC from web in context
  9. @hoit21 Oh, just something that caused me to rail into a few people who were giving sarcastic, or even seriously messed-up, advice on the matter.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 06:21:23 UTC from web in context
  10. @hoit21 I'm sorry, I killed it with my troubles.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 06:19:50 UTC from web in context
  11. @yrcilyhixvo #

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:43:57 UTC from web
  12. @redenchilada The trouble is, I find myself unable to move on. Over the past two years, I've gotten to know her to the point that I felt like there was something there - which I held back, because I didn't want to push her away at the time. I finally came clean, and was played with as a result. Yet I still love her.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:16:34 UTC from web in context
  13. @wafers Alright, since you can't seem to take a hint and respect a serious matter, I'm just going to tell you to stop.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:12:33 UTC from web in context
  14. @wafers All the same, it'd be considered sexual assault because of the action.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:10:46 UTC from web in context
  15. @wafers Do you seriously want me to get arrested on sexual assault charges?

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:09:30 UTC from web in context
  16. @nerthos NO. I will not respond to manipulation with further manipulation. That is a line that I will never cross.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:06:19 UTC from web in context
  17. @wafers @scribus @nerthos It's someone that I actually, genuinely care about and love, who has basically shot down my feelings after leading me on for three days. I still love that person, which is leaving me in a difficult spot. I'd appreciate a bit of... tact.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 05:04:41 UTC from web in context
  18. In the past four hours, I've already gotten mixed advice on this downright confusing and waylaying relationship problem I'm having. I'm nowhere closer to finding a possible solution than I was at the start - perhaps farther from one.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 04:59:50 UTC from web in context
  19. @pony That's what makes this whole situation as bad as it is: I love her, she claims that she doesn't see me as more than a friend, and I find myself unable to legitimately accept that. I'm in such a precarious position in this that I honestly don't know what to do with myself.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 04:33:15 UTC from web in context
  20. @mushi It's okay, it's just that I'm at such an awkward crossroads that I don't even want to take a step in any direction for fear of misstepping.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 02:14:03 UTC from web in context
  21. @zeldatra Yes, I do, but NOT at the risk of pushing her away.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 02:02:24 UTC from web in context
  22. @nerthos If it were that simple, I'd have done it. And the last damned thing I want to do is potentially alienate her.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 02:01:16 UTC from web in context
  23. @zeldatra Yeah, you'll get flak and shrapnel for that. I put no stock in anything besides actually getting to know someone in-person.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:56:55 UTC from web in context
  24. @mushi You could've ignored the repost, you know... I'm asking anyone for their advice here, because this territory is so foreign to me that I legitimately do not know what to do at all/.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:56:05 UTC from web in context
  25. Reposting because... I seriously don't know what to do: I've been led on - and the girl-in-question apparently led herself on as well - and have had the first "relationship" I've had in seven years just dissolve. I still have feelings for her, and this will not change at all. Where do I go from here?

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:52:46 UTC from web in context
  26. @redenchilada I tried injecting a relationship discussion, but it's been terminated and resources were reallocated to the OS discussion.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:46:46 UTC from web in context
  27. @chiefanchor So, here's the situation: I've been led on - and the girl-in-question apparently led herself on as well - and have had the first "relationship" I've had in seven years just dissolve. I still have feelings for her, and this will not change at all. Where do I go from here?

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:37:16 UTC from web in context
  28. @yodelerty A healthy way? What healthy way is there? I still love her and I know that I can't change how I feel about her at all. This is the first time in my life that I've encountered this particular situation in a relationship, and I legitimately do not know what to do.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:31:19 UTC from web in context
  29. @yodelerty That's the thing - I honestly can't see myself changing how I feel about her at all. No one else that I've met, besides two others who I've tried with before, has managed to make me feel this way about them. And I honestly mean no one.\

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:27:27 UTC from web in context
  30. @yodelerty Like nothing else, believe me. I'm just so damned lost right now; I have no clue what to do, because I honestly still have feelings for this person, and can't just set them aside.

    Monday, 11-Mar-13 01:22:25 UTC from web in context